I tried once again to offer a man what he claims to want, but like all the men I have met in my life there are conditions, ones I can’t surpass. I am really starting to think that I will never find what I want. I don’t think most men are capable of a deep connection. I finally found one I connect with on a level I have had with no other man, but every time I open up and I am vulnerable I get cold water thrown into my face. Read all of the posts and one thing is clear im not alone,which is reassuring..Male mid fifties 5′ 6″ reasonably fit @ 158lbs & 20% body fat..
How To Find a Dating Coach
I too keep a few extra pounds in check but I know I look good when I leave my house. Most women today will really want the best of all which they will never settle for less either since most of these women are always looking for men with money anyway. EyesWideOpen……….You did the right thing by cultivating male friendships. I think it’s important that both men and women have their own friends. We all need positive support systems.
I have realized that for most I have met, I am not young enough, thin enough, pretty enough…or do not meet the needs of whatever else is on their wish list. I have had a couple of men who date younger say that women MY AGE are not interested in sex or adventure and are too much of the same…like their ex-wife. They have judged me without knowing a damn thing about me. Their loss because they have no idea. To these men, I do not give them one more second of my time. I too find it difficult to date in my 50’s.
I supported his efforts to want to make a better life for us. Once he became successful I was booted out of his life. What puzzles me is that – given a surplus of smart, attractive, together women over 40 – why don’t more women get together with other women? It seems logical, and research has showed that a large percentage of women are DesiKiss bisexual to some degree. It may be a challenging adjustment after a lifetime of heterosexuality, but to me it seems worth it for women to be able to get a higher quality partner. There have been reports that there is indeed an increasing trend for women to switch to same-sex relationships in midlife, and I hope it continues to grow!
Dating at 50: Five Red Flags to Look out For
I also personally believe that there are more quality men than quality women available but that’s just my own view. The few high quality women are usually taken and stay taken as they don’t destroy good relationships thinking they might be able to do better. I just turned 50 and although I have no problems getting dates , I have been single for a very long time. I find I am too scared of getting hurt.
Unfortunately, for the mature 50+ ladies, we require a man of some sophistication and good taste to appreciate our depths and experience …. This might be why many men go for women younger than them – physical attraction? I really hope situations turn around for both of us. Peter-san, unfortunately, a woman who has put half her life behind her is statistically 39 years old in the United States. You deserve to be happy and fulfilled in your life. Most of us over 50 men have just as much dating issues as you do.
These days, you might have a few high-quality friends, rather than a whole party bus full of people to expose you to other singles. That reduces both your exposure to the dating pool, and also to an endless supply of wingmen or wingwomen to pump you up. Dating middle-aged men present different challenges for men and women. A man of 50 feels responsible for kids, grandkids, and aging parents. It’s can be hard to be in the sandwich generation because it’s exhausting to help everyone.
A Fitting Lifestyle Arrangement
I have posted here occasionally for the past few years and nothing much has changed for me, except that I moved from north to south. I find the situation with men here even worse than before. Now at almost 53 years old I am totally turned off to the idea of being with anyone again. I would always have preferred not to be alone and single, but my luck with men after my divorce, which was 10 years ago, has not been good. If you lived a lot closer you might be able to convince me that there are still men out there with a decent head on their shoulders who desire something meaningful in their lives. It seems that good women are often hard to find too.
The next time you go out clubbing, keep an eye out for the older men in the crowd. They will likely be the quiet ones that are sitting and enjoying a drink by themselves. While clubs are a great meeting place, some younger women find these guys a bit creepy. If you feel that the age difference will be a factor and you can’t overcome the feeling, it’s likely that you will feel the same way even after getting into a relationship. For women, the older man can be attractive when he presents himself as a more mature partner.
They may not be able to understand the bond that two people of different generations can have. People in public places may even be so bold as to make comments. Many people feel that women who date significantly older men are looking for a substitute for their father. Maybe they had a bad relationship with their dads or maybe he was absent while they grew up. Even if this isn’t the case for you, realize that there are a lot of opinions out there about women who date much older men , so be prepared to deal with it.
He may have 15 to 20 years left to work, but how much he earns and saves now will greatly impact his golden years. He may not pursue a relationship that requires changing employment or location if this is the case. He is financially wise and will splurge on special occasions and budget for his favorite things. Remember that it’s about the two of you as individuals, not your age difference. With kids out of the nest, an older man may have more time for you. An older man who’s worthy of your time knows what he wants in a relationship.